What is Mentoring?
Mavar’s mentoring may be different from other kinds of mentoring you’re familiar with, so take a few moments to have a look at what we can offer you.
Getting to know you
Your mentor will want to get to know you and have an understanding of what has led you to the point where you’ve decided to make some changes in your life. It can take a while for you to get to know your mentor and feel comfortable talking about yourself. Your mentor will understand this. He/she may ask you about your background, family life, education etc, but you are not obliged to share more than you want to and, be assured, all information is treated with the utmost confidentiality. Occasionally an issue could arise where your mentor needs the advice of a specialist who could be of assistance to you. If that’s the case your mentor will ask for your permission to do so.
Information and guidance
One of the mentor’s roles is to provide information and guidance to help you make informed choices. The mentors are not there to tell you what to do or make choices for you, however, they can help set out the various pathways and options open to you. It will always be your decision about which pathway to take, but we’ll be there to provide some guidance along the way.
In order to help you move forward towards your long-term goal/s, we’ll help you set short-term ones. So for instance, if you’d like to go to university either for academic or vocational purposes, we’ll help you understand the potential study routes and which courses you should consider taking to get the qualifications needed for a university application. Or if you’re considering leaving the Charedi community we’ll discuss the financial, social and emotional implications of this with you and help you find a way forward. We can help you set realistic goals and we’ll be there to help you prioritise the things you need to do to achieve your goals – if you need that from us. Not everyone does.
Referrals and Networks
Mavar’s mentors work, to some extent, as a team. Whilst everything you tell your mentor is confidential, if you identify something that requires specialist knowledge, such as legal issues or questions about educational opportunities, we’ll suggest bringing in a specialist from the team. We have family lawyers, welfare specialists, education specialists, employment advisors, social workers etc. Everyone needs or wants something different. We also have a wide network of people employed in different sectors who you can speak to if you feel that might be helpful.
If you decide you would like support from a tutor or counsellor that can be arranged too.
Socials and Hospitality
If it’s important to you to get to know people beyond the ex-Charedi community and you want to integrate with the wider Jewish (or non-Jewish) world, your mentor can put you in touch with someone from our Under 35’s network. They run Mavar’s social programme and help Mavar members to connect with the social scene in London. There are also families who are happy to offer home hospitality. Mentors don’t offer hospitality themselves, but they are warm, empathetic individuals who will want to get to know you well and support you through the ups and downs of your ‘journey’.
Communication and meeting up
Depending on your needs you can meet up regularly or occasionally with your mentor. For some people this might be once a fortnight and for others it might be once every few months. You can also be in email or phone contact and your mentor will let you know what his or her availability is to speak on the phone. Meetings can take place in any public space that you feel comfortable in – a library, a café, a hotel lobby or somewhere more discreet if required.
We hope you and your mentor have a fruitful and warm relationship, however, should you have any further questions or concerns, please get in touch with Alex, Mavar’s Hotline Manager on 0208 144 5074.